The 21st Century Relationships and dating
THE TWENTY-FIRST CENTURY DATING
The current relationships no longer work compared to the 19th and 18th centuries. Partners are dating wounded souls. Dating seems like forcing a wounded lion to lead a pride of lions on a mission to hunt. In the process, the mission fails with more casualties and injuries. The insecurities from our past make things difficult in the next relationship.
Partners still date their exes in their minds. Many will never agree since pride will always tell them that. Pride has taken over love, and the ego seems to be in control. We think apologizing and making up is old fashion. We prefer jumping from one relationship to the other, forgetting that we are the course. The blame games of being in a toxic relationship have blindfolded us. We no longer reason with our sixth sense of humor but let the world decide for us.
I believe that there is nothing like a toxic relationship. What we have are toxic partners who cannot prioritize their source of happiness. We get involved in relationships that have no future nor meaning. Sexual satisfaction and desires are the driving factors for Men. Women focus more on the materialistic provisions. That is why statements such as, I must date a woman who has a big butt, light skin and got the curves. Women will have girl clubs that will encourage their members to date the so-called wababa with money, a car, and a good-paying job.
What happened to true love? The moment sex and money started exchanging hands and became friends, love lost its meaning. We fear getting broke more than getting infected with sexually transmitted infections. The mentality of being in love and reciprocating the love back makes no sense anymore. The so-called stingy men are left lonely and hopeless. To love or be loved, in never their thing. Sex has become cheap and readily available. It is no longer a privilege found in marriage. The phrase, money speaks, and shit happens could be the best in such a case.
Dating no longer leads to marriage, but it is the key to financial success and sex advances. We are dating partners who are up to showing off. Their exes must know that without them, they can still survive. We are trying to heal wounds we never pricked. The more we try to heal them, the more we get hurt in return. The number of young single parents is growing more than the number of newly married couples. Who are the fathers or mothers of these kids raised by single parents? The same society condemning and judging single parents is the same society that does not teach patience as a virtue. Instead, it portrays patience as stupidity and laziness. You will hear things like “si utafute mmbaba Ako na pesa, uomoke”.
This problem will never be solved unless we change our mentality of objectifying women and stop glorifying men who entice women with money. Being stingy is not supporting your wife and children. The other narrative is just peer pressure being crusade by the lazy and toxic feminist who thinks success lies between their legs. Men work hard and provide for your family. Women should be submissive to their providing men and support them to keep providing. We can still have genuine love like the ones we read in books and watch in movies.
